How to Deal with Traumatic Memory. Any past happening that comes to our mind in the form of fear or embarrassment or feeling bad is called a traumatic memory. We all had such memory in our life like rape, a natural disaster, a violent parent, a drunk husband, terrible relations or marriage, a hospital stay, an assault, the horrors of war. Experiences like these are more common than you might think, with an estimated number of people. Who have experienced at least one of these at some point in life. Not all of these memories cause people to experience trauma later in life, but they can cause problems for many, and for some, they can be debilitating.
HOW MEMORY BECOMES TRAUMA
When we experience something bad that usually gets registered in our mind and disturbs us from time to time by automatically coming into our mind and in our feelings. When we ignore those feelings and thoughts forcefully because of feeling bad by reminding them that becomes trauma in us.
HOW TO HEAL
If we want to remove that memory or trauma from our mind we should have to deal with that constructively. Rather than ignoring that in a negative way. We can positively heal this memory or trauma with these steps:
- Accept that memory is a part of you ignoring. Feeling bad about why it happened to you makes it worst for you.
- Don’t break the positive other activities that you were doing before that incident of trauma.
- Write down the exact situation that happened to you. And what were your thoughts in that which instigate bad feelings in you?
- One thing you can do by dealing with trauma by yourself if you feel that you can’t manage it even in the next two weeks must take professional help.
- Keep it in your mind that was not your fault whatever happened with you. It was an incident. Feeling guilty about the happening make things worse for you.
- Work on your thoughts about trauma or situation rather than over situation and feelings. Whenever bad things happen to us; we always change situations in our minds that disturb us more. So always focus on a thought; which comes to you after a bad incident.
- Decide three times a day for 20 minutes each time in that you will give proper attention to your thoughts which were coming all day and making you feel upset or anxious or fearful.
- Write down your trauma-related thoughts and make them the opposite of them. Like if trauma thoughts are why it happened to me even I didn’t ever do bad with anyone. You can write the opposite of this is *I can’t change whatever happened and this does not happen because I was bad or good to anyone another good example of writing the opposite of it. If we pass from the street and a dog bites us; we think or feel that if we didn’t say anything to the dog then why dog bites us*.
- Give an opinion to yourself over what happened to you the way you will give an opinion to the third person if that trauma-related thing would happen to him or her.
- Continue breathing exercises and meditation for dealing with your depressed or anxious feelings related to trauma-related thoughts.
- Use your senses to stay in present.
After all, if you feel still you are there in your feelings or thoughts; must go to a consultant preferably a psychologist.